Aug 02 2012
Really, it is. Things get overwhelming, crazy, unpredictable, disappointing, upsetting… and then, magically, they get better. This cycle happens over and over again. Each time you go through it, do you believe in the “it gets better” part? Or do you sink in the middle with the swirl of despair? I have to say that I always take a dip in the despair pool, but I quickly get out (or someone scoops me out) and I am returned to the brightness of knowing that it really will turn out okay. I know that some people can’t get out of the tailspin of negative thoughts. We need to recognize when those we love are in that cycle. We need to be the hand that rescues them and takes them out. The voice that lets them know that it really does get better. Once you have been through the cycle and realized that there is light at the end of the tunnel, an open window when the door is shut — all of these things — it is important to be that light for others who are stuck. There are people who were the light for me and taught me how to look for the light, the help, the new idea, the brighter side, the positive. I hope I am always able to recognize when people I know and love are lost in the cycle and I am able to help lift them through it.
Of course I rely on my faith for all of this. I consider the “light” God’s grace and I believe it shines for me when I need it most. Some of you might not see it in this exact way, but you can still agree with me that “Everything will be okay in the end. If things are not okay, it’s not the end.”
I have relied on this throughout our cancer journey as we roll through the bumps along the way to recovery. I have also been comforted by this during the other life events that happen outside of the cancer world we can become consumed in. Please let me know if you are stuck in a negative cycle. I want to help you see the other options out there. Our journeys in life are together, not in parallel, but always crossing.