Aug 02 2012
It’s all going to be okay…
Really, it is. Things get overwhelming, crazy, unpredictable, disappointing, upsetting… and then, magically, they get better. This cycle happens over and over again. Each time you go through it, do you believe in the “it gets better” part? Or do you sink in the middle with the swirl of despair? I have to say that I always take a dip in the despair pool, but I quickly get out (or someone scoops me out) and I am returned to the brightness of knowing that it really will turn out okay. I know that some people can’t get out of the tailspin of negative thoughts. We need to recognize when those we love are in that cycle. We need to be the hand that rescues them and takes them out. The voice that lets them know that it really does get better. Once you have been through the cycle and realized that there is light at the end of the tunnel, an open window when the door is shut — all of these things — it is important to be that light for others who are stuck. There are people who were the light for me and taught me how to look for the light, the help, the new idea, the brighter side, the positive. I hope I am always able to recognize when people I know and love are lost in the cycle and I am able to help lift them through it.
Of course I rely on my faith for all of this. I consider the “light” God’s grace and I believe it shines for me when I need it most. Some of you might not see it in this exact way, but you can still agree with me that “Everything will be okay in the end. If things are not okay, it’s not the end.”
I have relied on this throughout our cancer journey as we roll through the bumps along the way to recovery. I have also been comforted by this during the other life events that happen outside of the cancer world we can become consumed in. Please let me know if you are stuck in a negative cycle. I want to help you see the other options out there. Our journeys in life are together, not in parallel, but always crossing.
Felicia, as Michaels mom, I can say you are the light In my sons life and therefore the light in ours. I know we depend on you to keep us abreast of what is going on when Michael is in all the different stages of his fighting cancer. If this isn’t enough , your mom is fighting Cancer too.
We all depend on you, with Michael , your 4 daughters , us as his parents all his siblings and their numerous family members.
How can we help you, if that is possible ,you have to let us know . I am proud of my children, their families and how they have pulled together for Michael, you and the girls. I also know its like an a constant interruption to your home and home life and yet you endure it all.
Felicia, thank you for shining God’s light on all of us around you. We hope to return to you one day, Felicia, you do help lift me up , the way you help me understand .
God bless you , Michael and your 4 beautiful girls.
Felicia,
I’m so glad things are moving in the right direction for your family! I always look for updates to your blog and emails from Vanessa to keep us informed. Your in my family’s prayers.
Jess
Thanks so much Charlotte and Jess! We are definitely moving in the right direction finally and seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. We still have a ways to go, but we are so glad to see such improvement. I’d love to say we *never* doubted it, but that’s not completely honest. Doubt has crept in for sure. Knowing that we have such a strong support of family and friends has definitely carried us through the dark times.
Thanks again to you both for your sweet words
Felicia